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Why Men Love Bitches: From Doormat to Dreamgirl―A Woman's Guide to Holding Her Own in a Relationship

Book by Sherry Argov

DETAILS

Publisher : Adams Media; 6th ed. edition (October 1, 2002) Language : English Paperback : 255 pages ISBN-10 : 1580627560 ISBN-13 : 978-1580627566 Item Weight : 11.5 ounces Dimensions : 5.5 x 0.7 x 8.44 inches Best Sellers Rank: #750 in Books (See Top 100 in Books) #1 in Dating (Books) #7 in Love & Romance (Books) #7 in Interpersonal Relations (Books) , Discover why men are attracted to strong, independent women with this straight-forward, accessible dating guide from New York Times bestselling author Sherry Argov. Do you feel like you are too nice? Sherry Argov’s Why Men Love Bitches delivers a unique perspective as to why men are attracted to a strong woman who stands up for herself. With saucy detail on every page, this no-nonsense guide reveals why a strong woman is much more desirable than a “yes woman” who routinely sacrifices herself. The author provides compelling answers to the tough questions women often ask: -Why are men so romantic in the beginning and why do they change? -Why do men take nice girls for granted? -Why does a man respect a woman when she stands up for herself? Full of advice, hilarious real-life relationship scenarios, “she says/he thinks” tables, and the author’s unique “Attraction Principles,” Why Men Love Bitches gives you bottom-line answers. It helps you know who you are, stand your ground, and relate to men on a whole new level. Once you’ve discovered the feisty attitude men find so magnetic, you’ll not only increase the romantic chemistry—you’​ll gain your man's love and respect with far less effort. Read more

REVIEW

It's true! Men DO love bitches! I've seen a lot of other reviews saying this book had a lot of contradicting statements though good values. "I hope no woman is following this word for word..." "It's a good book to teach women values of independence and looking to take after herself, but to take this book seriously should be a crime." I wanted to see what all the hype was about, especially after the title caught my eye. All of the values in this book prove true. They are all principles and tips that lead to a woman having more respect for herself, more happiness, more contentedness with herself and no one else, and joy from an internal and self-fulfilled source. Essentially, by acting like you don't need a man in your life-- because it's true!-- and not tolerating disrespect, you maintain this goddess mindset and preserve your dignity and pristine temple of self. This makes men go WILD! One of my previous boyfriends came back after I exuded these principles. He wasn't treating me right. As the book mentions, he will keep treating you that way if you let him because he knows you'll stick around if you tolerate it. So I had enough. I mustered enough self-worth and respect to say, "We're no longer going to be together." Just saying it isn't enough. It didn't stop until I packed my bags and left. He kept begging me to come back. I was firm and said, "No. We're just going to have to be friends." My bitchy demeanor had been given notice. I remember it like a gem. I was in the parking lot of his apartment complex, under the stars of the night. I had this new attitude, the "new-and-improved bitch". I was about to say goodbye after game night with some friends, and he was impressed with my self-serviced attitude. His eyes were glowing with raging attraction. He came close to my ear, whispered, "I'm sorry for what I'm about to do," and maneuvered away from my ear to face me. He closed his eyes, and came close slowly, kissing me in the softest, most romantic tone I've ever felt. Of course, I wanted it, too, but I "held my heart 10 feet away" like the book advises you to do, and I kissed him back. It's sexy for both parties, let me tell you! Since then, he's treated me with new-found respect, and I can sense his fear of stepping out of line. He knows I won't be afraid to leave the second he disrespects me or treats me a way I don't like. We've recently started dating again. Note: I did this before I've read this book, so this goes to show that this read is NOT just a placebo effect! :) The principles in this book truly do work. It exposes the dead-stoppers of a relationship that leads to a man's reversal of attraction. I've found that a lot of these principles are true based on my own experiences. I am considered an attractive woman by today's standards. However, I have always had this "needy" and "desperate" vibe that instantly turns men off. The SECOND I get over-emotional, men seemed to stop DEAD in their tracks, unsure of what to do like a deer in the headlights, and then start bouncing away. I've had rounds of men whom it seemed to go in a pattern with. They would be kind in the beginning. Next, I would start submitting to them, and then they would become aggressive, controlling, and manipulative jerks! (Sound familiar, anyone?) Shelly Argov is right: men don't want a submissive woman. They want a bitch to keep them on their toes because it gives them excitement! They want to continuously pursue you. Do this by telling them what's what and how you expect to be treated! They want someone who has their own life and own hobbies and own interests and is content with herself! THAT is what a total package babe is, and men are allured to this. They'll be stepping into line with the rest of your life with careful provision not to bother the perfect thing that you've already crafted it to be. They are mystified by it and drawn to it, awed by it, curious beings they are, and want to co-exist and live by what magnificent beauty you are in their eyes. This right here garners IMMENSE admiration and respect by men, and it won't be long before he starts treating you like a highly prized possession. The best part? You won't even have to change your life. He'll have to enhance his to be in yours. There were a few parts in the book that I have to pick a bone with, though. There were a lot of contradicting statements that made it hard to follow what you should actually think. For example, there was a lot of oscillation between "Tell him what you want" and "Don't tell him what you want." The first argument imposes the idea that you "treat him like his friends" and "give it to him straight". The second argument gives the impression that "you will give him the powers to take advantage of you". This ended up being confusing, and I wish that the author had clarified more the context and situations that these principles would be applicable to. Another abhorrent detail to the story that I disagree with is the cruelty of women treating men. There were stories included of women leaving men to soak in the rain for hours on end alongside with deliberately ruining laundry by mixing reds and whites. These stories weren't included for show of what not to do; they were included for show of what TO do. I found these suggestions horrifying, and I couldn't understand how a woman could reach a level so steep. But maybe that's because I'm too nice. ;) Finally, I felt like there were moments where the book was not encouraging women to embrace their self. One classic example I'd like to bring up is the chapter on "talking too much". Excuse me? I am a very outgoing person, and I love to talk because I love to bring up ideas and discuss patterns and express myself in this way. I talk about interesting things, and if the guy doesn't like it, then I don't need him! It's good to listen to one another, and it's great to have some space. Personally, I can't stand when a guy talks too much. However, the author discusses talking as though it is a crime. She mentions that women "who are quiet present a mystery, and that mystery draws guys in". I am interested to see how this one plays out. I think a quiet girl may draw a guy in, but Argov argues that women need to remain quiet throughout the relationship. My thought is: What's the point in having a relationship that you can't talk to your partner with about your exciting ideas and thoughts? How is that even a relationship at that point? Why put on a front that expects men to take notice and say something? Isn't that putting the man above you? All in all, I think this was a wonderful read. I was laughing towards the end of the book because everything said is so true and applicable as I think back to my own life. It's exciting to see that many of the values I've gained in my own journey of self-respect are reflected in this book, and I no longer feel alone in traveling my own path. I feel empowered. The second-to-last attraction principle resonated with me greatly, and it helped clarify some lingering doubts I've had about blocking other people. I recommend this book to any woman who has ever felt like she is too nice or too bitchy-- this book helps both opposing ends of the spectrum meet in the middle to create one classy, sexy woman!

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